Weight Loss: When You’ve Already Been There And Done That, But It Hasn’t Worked.

Like many things worth achieving in life, losing weight takes dedication, patience, and consistency. You must continually work on your weaknesses and bad habits, all while keeping yourself motivated enough to not give up when things get tough.

It is so important to stay positive throughout the duration of your weight loss journey, but sometimes, this is much easier said than done.

If you are like me and have struggled to lose weight time and time again, it can be so hard to start over. However, this can apply to repeated attempts to reach any goal, not just weight loss.

As you experience one failure after another, you may seriously start to doubt your own strength and ability as a person. No matter how many testimonials you come across or how many before and after photos you view, it may feel as though you will never get a chance to share your own success story.

If you have failed to meet your fitness goals in the past and you don’t see how trying again will make any difference, I completely understand because I sometimes feel this way too.

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Even though I am 40+ days into my own weight loss journey, there are still times when negativity and doubt force their way into my stream of thought.

About once a week, I feel the familiar tug of disbelief and fear saying, “This time might not be any different. It hasn’t worked before, so this probably won’t either. You’ll never be able to reach the end. It’s too hard and you have entirely too much weight to lose. Perhaps you should find a way to just be comfortable right where you are.”

Days like this can be very difficult to bounce back from because it’s true— I have failed before. A lot.

Even when I have managed to lose 10 or even 20 pounds, I’ve never managed to run the whole race and lose all of the weight for good. Something would always come up, throw me completely off course, and the pounds would creep right back up on me, undoing all of the hard work I’d done. Due to this, I sometimes worry that my current weight loss attempt won’t be different, that maybe I can’t become the person I deserve to be.

But this isn’t true– not for me and not for you.

No matter what your goals are or how many times you have tried to accomplish something, no one ever has the luxury of giving up.

All throughout history, there have been people with seemingly impossible dreams. There have been dreams of cures to deadly diseases, machines that would allow man to soar the skies among birds, and cars that drive themselves. Technological advances and entire industries have been birthed to change the course of society, and they all sprung from the imaginations of the world’s most fearless men and women. 


What made these individuals so fearless was not the dreams they carried (however impressive those may have been), but their perseverance and willingness to keep going.

For instance, do you think the first cell phone was created from conception to production without any flaws? No! It can almost be guaranteed that the first operable cell phone had several prototypes and reworks behind it. Without a doubt, it would have been the product of much trial and error, but through persistence and research, the first wave of marketed cell phones were eventually released upon the public.

And even then, it wouldn’t surprise me if early cell phones still fell short of the initial expectations of their creators. I mean, I was there.

The cell phones of the early 90s (which weren’t even the first cell phones available) were big, ugly, and barely did anything. However, other people have since taken those initial monstrosities, learned from early manufacturers’ mistakes and successes, and refined them to produce the still big, but much prettier cell phones half of us are addicted to today. 😂

My point is this: No matter what, try again.

When we try to do something and it doesn’t work the first time (or even the first 100 times), our efforts need not be a complete waste unless we want them to be. After all, it is all about perspective. We can either look at prior attempts as mere failures and nothing more, or we can choose to use our “failures” as valuable intel for our next trial.

I mean, if you’re going to fail, do so with purpose. Don’t just throw your hands up and say, “Oh well. That didn’t work–I’m done!” Be able to identify what went wrong and what could have gone better. Know your strengths just as well as you know your weaknesses, then use them to try again. For example, if you know a certain workout isn’t really effective or enjoyable for you, stop doing it! If you know a particular food or diet seemed to help you reach your goals in the past, don’t be afraid to try it again.

Never scrap an entire blueprint just because a few specs aren’t working according to plan. Get in there, roll your sleeves up, and try to figure out what needs to be changed to get you where you need to go.

When it comes to fitness, nothing is one size fits all anyway. What works for others may not work for you, and from what I’ve discovered, what worked for me just last year doesn’t necessarily work now. Things in life are constantly changing, so never be afraid to change along with it. Take your time and really find out what gets you closer to your goals and what doesn’t.

Many people often say that they’ve tried “everything” to lose weight, and though I can totally sympathize with the feeling of frustration behind these kinds of statements, we all know it isn’t really true.

Everything means everything, and there is no one in this world who has truly tried “everything” of anything. You may have tried everything you have been taught to try and everything you know to do, but not everything that is humanly possible.

So, if your weight loss goals are as important to you as mine are to me, I urge you to keep searching for the right combination of things for you. It’s important, not just for your benefit, but for the benefit of others too.

Just imagine what would have happened if other people had given up on their dreams at the first signs of trouble. We wouldn’t have any of the amazing conveniences and technologies that we enjoy today. Most of what we love and enjoy in this world is a product of someone taking the hard earned achievements of someone else and making them even better.

Televisions weren’t always flat… or in color… or in flawless 5K.

Phones weren’t always mobile… unless carrying it like a 10 lb purse counts.

Media wasn’t always so social. Insta-who? Face-what?

And I still remember being in the 1st grade, and being excited out of my mind to go to the computer lab so I could play Oregon Trail on a 1990s Mac like:

Thank you, Apple, for never giving up LOL. No, seriously… thank you. 😆

It is because some people didn’t give up on their dreams that others have found the strength to keep chasing after theirs. So even though you may have struggled to reach your fitness goals thus far, remember that each failure you face is yet another opportunity to potentially help someone else down the line. That’s why blogging my own weight loss journey is so important to me.

While I do enjoy being able to vent and laugh about the process, the things I go through (both good and bad) have the power to aid someone else as they strive towards their own goals. Just because something hasn’t worked for me doesn’t mean that it can’t work for someone else. You never know which of your life experiences can later be used to change someone else’s life or inspire them, so it’s important to count everything we go through as something of great value.

This time around, my weight loss journey hasn’t been easy, but it’s been easier than all of my prior attempts because of the way I’ve chosen to value my past failures. Because I cannot afford to allow myself to muck about in my own disappointment, I have no other choice but to use what I’ve already gone through in a positive way.

For example, in the past, I had a tendency of working out far too long, far too often. Inevitably, this would lead to some kind of illness or injury due to not listening to my body and following the appropriate steps to take better care of myself.

This time around, I know not to overdo it. If I’m tired or I don’t particularly feel my best, history has taught me that I either need to shorten my workout, do something easier, or skip it for the day altogether.

Past failures have shown that going full tilt 100% of the time is a great way to ensure that I hurt myself and can’t workout for awhile, but not a very good way of meeting my goals. Past disappointments have helped me realize that it does no good to sprint for the first few laps if you can’t even reach the finish line.

Sure, learning this the hard way wasn’t fun, but now that I’ve learned the lesson, I can use it to make the necessary adjustments to be more successful in the future. Even now, I learn things on a day to day basis. Nothing ever stays the same for me because it can’t. If I wish to see consistent improvement, there needs to be consistent growth, and unfortunately, nothing grows in stagnation.

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Anyway, that’s my post for the day, you guys! I really hope this message helps to encourage someone out there.

Dealing with repeated failure can be really, really hard to overcome– especially if your goal is of great importance to you. If you’re in a rut in some area of your life and you simply don’t know if it’s worth the time and effort to keep pursuing a dream of yours, I just want to encourage you to really consider making a commitment to stick with it no matter what.

I’m not going to be like some folks and lie to you, saying that it’s going to be easy. It won’t be (at least, not at first). However, life is not about doing what’s easy, it’s about doing what is right and what is best for us. If a dream is important enough to take up space in your heart, then it’s definitely worth clinging to and fighting for.

Things are crazy out here in the world, you know? Tomorrow is not guaranteed for any of us and we only live once. Even to live to 90 or 100 is a speck of time in comparison to what came before us and what may lie ahead, so I really hope all of you are living up to your highest potential while you’re still here.

Even though the road to reaching your goal weight may seem daunting and difficult, there is nothing more painful and debilitating than regret. I genuinely wish I’d had this mindset and resolve 10 years, 5 years, or even six months ago. If I had, I most likely wouldn’t be here talking to all of you. Who knows what I might have achieved and who I’d be? It’s quite staggering to think about, really.

Regardless of what could have happened in the past, all we have is the current moment, so I’ve got to take full advantage of everything I’ve learned and act on it the best way I can now. Hopefully, this has inspired you to do the same. ❤️

Today was Day 45.

☀️ Looking back is called learning. Looking ahead is called living. 🌻

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One thought on “Weight Loss: When You’ve Already Been There And Done That, But It Hasn’t Worked.

  1. Nice post here Friend. I was scrolling through posts here on WordPress when I came across this post from you. I gave it a read, and I am glad that I did. I agree with you, weight loss is a commitment of its own, and sometimes it can be so hard that people even question if it is worth it. I have a few suggestions that you might find helpful. 1) I suspect that you are not enjoying the process. when people lose weight and gain it back, it is because they have a lifestyle pattern that they return to that brings the weight back. It is fine and not a problem, because all bodies are good bodies. However, to keep the weight off, it is best to revisit those lifestyle practices. Diet is usually big one, because a lot of people hate eating healthy, and to be honest, a lot of healthy foods do taste bland and uninviting. So, I would advise that you create recipes that work for you. Find healthy foods that you enjoy eating and stack up on those. So long as you are getting your vital daily nutrients from them, It should be a better way to do things. 2) Find enjoyable work outs: finishing a workout, and feeling burned out, and tired, is not the way to do things. That process can honestly feel like torture. I think a better way to do things is to do dance workouts. Whip up your favorite songs that you like to dance to, and bust those moves. You would lose weight too from dancing and dance workouts are a thing. With dance workouts, you also use one stone to catch two birds because not only do you get a good workout, you might also become a better dancer. I also find that dancing makes a lot of people happy. 3) Do not stress too much about it: stress in any form is not great for anyone or for our bodies. The level of determination that you exhibit in this post is what you should continue to have. Do not let it stress you out. 4) Understand that your value does not come from how you look, but from the Lord. The man above who created us has called us from darkness to light. He put us here on the earth so that we can enjoy of his good works, testify to his glory, and be a positive light on the world. Draw close to the Lord, make him your shield, and he would make your paths straight. A relationship with the Lord begins with faith in the Lord, prayers to God, obedience to the Bible, and a passion for Christ. God is ready, the question is, are you?

    God says in Jeremiah 29:11
    “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope”.

    God says in Isaiah 41:10
    “Don’t be afraid, for I am with you.
    Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.
    I will strengthen you and help you.
    I will hold you up with my victorious right hand”.

    The Bible says in Philippians 4:6
    “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done”.

    The Bible says in Matthew 7:7-8
    “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened”.

    If you do not yet have a relationship with the Lord, I would strongly suggest that you begin one. There are a lot of blessings that comes from knowing the Lord, and being in fellowship with him. If you already have a relationship with the Lord, that is good, keep believing and working to deepen your relationship with him, and I am sure that he would come through for you somehow.

    If you want to know about God in more detail, you can find further information here https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/10/23/a-few-things-that-i-have-learned-about-god/ And Here https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/08/29/how-to-build-a-relationship-with-god/

    May God’s blessings be with you, Amen. ❤ ❤

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