Rely On Your “Why”

If you are someone who has repeatedly tried to lose weight only to give in to discouragement, motivation may be to blame for your lack of weight loss success. I know that this has definitely been the case for me.

Most of us know how it feels to genuinely desire to bring about change in ourselves or our lives. Yet, we may have experienced some degree of difficulty keeping ourselves fully engaged in and committed to the process of that change.

It can be both frustrating and disheartening to feel as though you simply can’t find the inner strength to follow through on your plans, but I’m here to tell you to never, ever give up.

Today, I’d like to share what has been keeping me focused during my weight loss journey, and hopefully encourage some of you along your way to finding motivation that actually works.

In comparison to all other areas of my life, weight loss has been the one area in which I’ve had the most difficulty maintaining motivation. For me, it was never an issue of having a lack of reasons for wanting to lose weight.

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Instead, it was usually a matter of having all the wrong reasons. Whether or not I had legitimate reasons for wanting to shed my excess pounds, I often struggled to maintain those reasons over time.

At first, my motivation would be enough to get me into the gym or to try a new diet, but when things got difficult, it would never be long before I realized that my “why” simply wasn’t enough. No matter how well-intentioned my motives were, and no matter how many positive affirmations I recited, there continued to be a lack of actual power behind the things that were supposed to carry me through to the end.

After years of trial and error, I have finally tapped into what true, powerful motivation is and isn’t.

While superficial, temporary sources of motivation can be found by merely reading inspirational quotes or hearing the before and after stories of others, someone who consistently fails to ride the wave of such resources is going to need to dig a lot deeper to find something that not only sticks, but lasts.

Unwavering, iron-clad motivation can be found in the richest, most sincere depths of our hearts. It can be found in our most secret, childhood desires or in the fabric of our current daydreams. Lasting motivation is woven into the DNA of what inspires us to live another day, just as much as it plays hide and go seek on the pages of our unfinished bucket list.

When I find myself feeling alone, wishing that I had someone cheering me on from the sidelines, I know exactly what will give me the strength to keep going on my own. When my workouts start to feel like a torturous punishment, I call to mind the images that represent the myriad of desires which collectively make up my “why”: the immoveable, unrelenting reason I refuse to give up.

The one thing that makes this weight loss journey different from all of the other attempts I have made, is my commitment to relying–heart, soul, and body–upon my “why”.

My “why” is my first thought when I wake up and the last thing that comes to mind as my head hits the pillow at night. Whether I am having dinner, working, taking a shower, or simply binge watching something on Netflix, my “why” is the main center of my attention no matter what I do, who I am with, or where I am.

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Every aspect of my life and every action I take is now a direct reflection of the way I feel when I think about the reasons I wish to lose weight. So, it is so much more than mere visualization or a passing concept that I dreamt up once and never considered again.

My “why” has had to become a continual state of mind–the frame of reference from which I view my life. It is my heart.

Your “why” should be a mental representation of who you are, what you believe in, as well as what you desire most out of life. It needs to become a symbol of what makes life worth living. Your “why” should be made up of the things that keep you awake at night, the things you know you were created to do in this life.

Thinking upon these things causes joy to fill my spirit, and I relish in that day in and day out. It’s the emotionality behind my “why” that propels me forward, even when it seems futile to keep going.

As much as I place a significant amount of focus on what I’m eating and how much exercise I’m getting, this is nothing in comparison to the attention I give to my “why”. The reason for this is that it simply won’t matter how healthy you’ve eaten or how hard you’ve already worked if you lose a grip on the will to keep doing it.

Motivation is the life-force behind perseverance. Without perseverance, you can’t achieve a single thing, be it weight loss or anything else.

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Just think of the manifestation of your wildest dreams as being this beautiful house. Your dreams–themselves–are the blueprint, while you are the builder. And in this way, motivation is the mortar, perseverance is the cornerstone, and the steps you must take to reach your goals are the bricks, windows, doors, and decorations.

In building, the cornerstone is the most important part of the house because without it, everything else will eventually fall down. The cornerstone is what holds all the separate components together, giving the structure durability. Much like constructing a house, the “cornerstone” of your goals is perseverance, or the will to continue on in the face of adversity and discouragement.

If you were to use extremely strong mortar for a building such as a house, the cornerstone and bricks would be firmly set and stable, which would permit the structure to stand unaffected by the storms that might beat against it. Of course, the stronger the mortar that sets the cornerstone, the stronger the other bricks that are placed will be.

This is why we need to have quality motivation we can actually rely on. We have to know that when the going gets tough and the storms of doubt and fatigue start brewing, our will to persevere is able to withstand anything we may come up against.

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If this post particularly resonates with you and you are someone who has had difficulty finding the motivation to reach your fitness (or any other type of) goals, this message was written specifically for you.

I truly did not have much to report about my day today, so I prayed that I might be able to deliver a message that could help set someone free from whatever they are going through.

No matter what your specific goals are or what failures you have seen in the past, I pray that you are able to identify your own “why” and come to rely on it more than anything else:

  • Don’t rely on the temptation to compare yourself to others.
  • Don’t blindly piggyback off of the dreams of other people (unless your “why” is genuinely the same).
  • Don’t rely on what this person says or that person says about you or your goals.
  • And you certainly do not want to focus upon past mistakes!

Even though finding a true source of inspiration within yourself may take some serious time and consideration on your part, I promise that it is well worth the effort. It has made a world of difference on my outlook and experience, so I know it can do the same for you.

If there is a specific topic (relating to motivation or weight loss) that you would like me to discuss or share my thoughts about, please feel free to comment down below. I’d be happy to take your suggestions for future posts!

But for now, that’s it! 👩🏽‍💻

Today was Day 18.

Go forth and build. 🏠🏗


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